Grieving The Loss Of Your Pet

A common aspect of owning a companion animal -- a part many rarely discuss -- is the loss of a pet. When you lose your best friend -- the one you could always count on when you were down, the one who warmed you, played with you, and made you laugh no matter how bad you felt -- it can be a devastating experience. It's important to grieve this loss and work through the emotions.

Feelings are feelings

Remember, it's okay to cry. Many of your friends may not understand how painful it is to lose a pet, but only you know the strength of the bond between you and the animal. No one else has the right to judge your sorrow.

Turning sorrow into joy

• Talk to friends about your pet -- the good times, the bad times, and the way it ended. Talking about your loss will help you feel better.
• Make a memorial donation in your pet's honor to an animal shelter and care agency.
• Have a memorial service in the woods or by your pet's favorite creek or pond. Bring a cherished photograph to symbolize your pet. Say a prayer or read a poem that expresses your feelings. Leave flowers, dog biscuits, or kitty treats as a parting gift of remembrance.
• Let yourself feel the pain and loss and appreciate all the years you had together.
• Seek support

Many humane societies offer grief counseling services. Check with your local agency for information about hotlines and support groups.

Also, refer to magazines and literature that can offer support in this difficult time. The 20.2 issue of Protecting Animals, features an article entitled "Pet Loss and Grief: How Some Shelters Are Providing Comfort at the End." (PDF;416KB) 5 pages

*This article was reprinted with permission from the American Humane Association.